There's a reason for the connections not lasting and it's boundaries.
Yes you are going to piss people off when you decide to fully cut the cords that bind, however you are embracing new and better connections when you do so.
I just cut off my last yo-yo relationship. I have him a chance in August last year. Last time I spoke to him was in October. Nothing from him.
No Happy Halloween
No Happy Thanksgiving
No Merry Christmas (even though in 2022 he got mad at me for not wishing him a Merry Christmas due to his disappearing acts.)
No Happy New Year
Wished him a Happy Birthday on January 8th, no response.
No Happy Birthday on my birthday.
And I don't no Happy Anniversary or Happy Valentine's Day.
What sucks the most is that when he was around he would make me feel special, loved, protected, wanted. He disappears for months at a time. It's worse than ghosting. This is Zombie. Coming back from the dead every few months to declare love for you then to disappear for months again.
Do you know how delulu I sound saying I have a boyfriend but he disappears on me for months and doesn't talk to me?
This is unacceptable. This pattern is atrocious. I've just never...
So I finally closed that door and threw away the key. I also felt like he was cheating on me, can't prove it but why would you disappear for months and not contact the person you claim you will always love at least every other day?
This was needed.
I'm just done with the constant reconnections that eventually end and restart.
I'm tired of trying to fix things.
I want truer, solid, stable connections. Not this 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and so on chances being given.
We are just not to be. Take the hint and move on.
